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Great sex only comes from understanding the Christian wife.   Her expectations. Her spirituality. Her wants and needs.  Her emotions. 

Women are very complex creatures. And Christian women are no different.  I don’t care what your wife tells you…ALL women are high maintenance to varying degrees. 

And if your wife tells you any different, she’s just trying to be humble :-)  

Like all women, Christian wives need love, security and protection.  Telling her that you love her is good, but it simply is not enough.  She needs to see it and feel it in her spirit (boy, it only took me 5 years to figure that one out).

She needs to know that there will always be a roof over her head, food on the table, clothes on her back (preferably name-brand), and the needs of her children will be met primarily by YOU!  After all, it is your biblical duty to provide for your family as a Christian husband (1 Timothy 5:8).

Your wife also needs to know that you will go to great lengths to protect her.  Not just from physical harm, but from spiritual harm that can come from Satan’s attacks.

Remember, one of Satan’s main missions is to destroy the Christian marriage.  It’s your job to protect your wife and children from his destructive plans.

And from your wife’s perspective, PRAYER is one of the best ways to give her the love and protection she needs.

Back when my wife and I were dating, she told me something about Christian women that I will never forget.  She said that there is nothing more attractive to a spiritual woman than a spiritual man.  A man who loves God with all of his heart, soul, mind and strength.  Not a man who “talks the talk”, but one who actually “walks the walk” every single day of his life.

After we were married, my wife told me something else about Christian women that was a priceless gem in terms of understanding them.  She told me that it is very attractive when I pray with her.  Again, it took me about 5 years to get this one through my thick head!

When you pray with your wife, it is a strong expression of love.  It shows her that you care about her deeply, on a spiritual level.  It also lets her know that you are standing guard to protect her against Satan’s tricks and schemes. 

BOTTOM LINE: Every Christian wife wants their husband to pray with them and for them on a consistent basis. Think about it…that’s why she married a spiritual man in the first place.  Try to pray with her everyday for the next 21 days…even if it’s only for 5 minutes before you go to bed. 

After 21 days it will become a habit.  If you do it for 6 months, you will do it for the rest of your life. 

Trust me and see how it will transform your relationship with you wife….especially the physical part

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The modern Christian wife definitely has her hands full when it comes to the number of roles she must fulfill on a day-to-day basis:  virtuous wife, mother, God’s loving daughter, CPA, doctor, nurse, maid, chauffer…etc.

But after your relationship with God, your next priority is the man He blessed you with.  And besides food, water, and respect, all men need one other thing to function properly….

SEX.

As much as they can stand!

They can’t help themselves.  That’s the way God created them.

And sexual relations is so important in the Christian marriage that it is referenced several times throughout the Bible.  This article is one in a series that deals with the issues of sex and marital duties within the Christian marriage.

The one scripture that really lays down the law in the area of Christian sex is 1 Corinthians 7:1-5.

Let’s look at a few different translations to get a better understanding of the way God  wants a married Christian woman to view intercourse…
     

New International Version:

Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The New Living Translation:   

 
Now about the questions you asked in your letter. Yes, it is good to live a celibate life. But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. The husband should not deprive his wife of sexual intimacy, which is her right as a married woman, nor should the wife deprive her husband. The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband also gives authority over his body to his wife. So do not deprive each other of sexual relations. The only exception to this rule would be the agreement of both husband and wife to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time, so they can give themselves more completely to prayer. Afterward they should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt them because of their lack of self-control.

The Good News Translation:  

Now, to deal with the matters you wrote about. A man does well not to marry. But because there is so much immorality, every man should have his own wife, and every woman should have her own husband. A man should fulfill his duty as a husband, and a woman should fulfill her duty as a wife, and each should satisfy the other’s needs. A wife is not the master of her own body, but her husband is; in the same way a husband is not the master of his own body, but his wife is. Do not deny yourselves to each other, unless you first agree to do so for a while in order to spend your time in prayer; but then resume normal marital relations. In this way you will be kept from giving in to Satan’s temptation because of your lack of self-control.

The New King James Version:  

Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband. Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

Pleasing your spouse with your body is your marital duty as a Christian wife.  It is a command from God.  So, you should make 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 a part of your walk with God and the man you will spend the rest of your life with.  And besides…..what’s wrong with having lots of great sex anyway?

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The Christian wife section will feature information for the Christian husband that will give him some insight into the mind and soul of the Christian wife.  Because, Lord knows, women are very beautiful and complex creatures. 

And men can be clueless when it comes to their spiritual and emotional needs. I know I was for years!

So, when you see the title “Understanding The Christian Wife”, this is meant to be a short lesson for the husbands that deal with issues in the Christian marriage from the wife’s point of view.  Hopefully these lessons will give you a better understanding of how your wife is wired and why she deos what she does.

This section will also have Bible lessons for the wives that will help them to strengthen their character and be the helper that God wants them to be for their husbands.

Our mission is to help you become the best Christian husband you can possibly be through learning and applying the word of God and by having a full understanding of what God and your Christian wife expect from you.

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If you are a Christian husband, your job is like no other. You have many responsibilities: righteous man, father, lover, provider, protector, leader, coach, mechanic, handyman…and the list goes on and on.

It is extremely hard.  And nobody wants to hear any excuses when you fall short.

Unfortunately, I found this out the hard way. Luckily, you don’t have to share in my pain.  This series of articles will tell you what God expects from you when it comes to your relationship with your wife (even when she is not acting like a Christian wife). 

Ephesians 5:25-30 (NIV) says:

“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.  In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies.  He who loves his wife loves himself.  After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church - for we are members of his body.”

Did You Know?

There are actually 3 different Greek words for “love” : Eros, Philia, and Agape

Eros is love that is associated with passion and romance, like the kind of love you find in a man/woman relationship.  Philia refers to the type of love you would have for a friend.  Agape is unconditional and self-sacrificing love. 

And that’s what God expects from us.

AGAPE.

The best example of it is none other than our Lord and Savor,  Jesus Christ.  He sacrificed his life for us.  

The Bible refers to the church as “the bride of Christ.”  We are his wife.  Study the way he treats us and how much he sacrificed for our benefit.

Then you will start to truly understand God’s expectations of us.  Compare dealing with your wife’s attitude or mood swings with being flogged, spat on, beaten, mocked, and crucified.

Which do you think is easier to endure? 

As a fellow Christian husband, I understand your pain and frustration.  God’s expectations of us are extremely high. And they greatly outnumber the expectations He has for our wives. But be encouraged.  He will never put more weight on you than you can handle. And he must think that you’re pretty awesome to drop such a huge responsibility on your shoulders. Pray for his strength and guidance as you strive to be the husband he wants you to be.

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